tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14313954.post6059334278263733889..comments2023-12-25T08:18:50.566-06:00Comments on whisper of hope: Recent Mommy ReadsKristyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12096291355429015757noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14313954.post-2796185867618502482010-06-13T20:05:36.219-05:002010-06-13T20:05:36.219-05:00I loved this post. You know what I value most abo...I loved this post. You know what I value most about you? You stay true to yourself without judging others. <br /><br /> Karen Y.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14313954.post-88195884560360719612010-06-12T08:35:59.596-05:002010-06-12T08:35:59.596-05:00Both were great articles, thanks for sharing. On ...Both were great articles, thanks for sharing. On the breastfeeding front.... I think it's so important for new moms to realize, it's nothing you can control!!! Being a mom of five, I've had five completely different babies who have all nursed completely different and have weaned at all different ages for that reason. Only one of the five made it to 12 months, and I'll be honest, the ONLY reason I kept doing it that long was because he absolutely refused bottles or formula and would nurse and be done in five minutes on each side. It was a breeze, and that was with child #4. The rest have all had their issues with different things/reasons to wean earlier, and for some strange reason, I still felt guilty, even though I knew it would all be fine. #5 threw me for a loop. He was a lazy eater and a chomper at that. I cracked and bled so badly that I ended up with a STAPH infection on one side that took months to heal. So, needless to say, he got weaned super early, and we haven't looked back since. He's happy and healthy and that's all that matters.<br /><br />On to the 2nd article... I struggle with this one daily. I pride myself at times for being a "Claire Huxtable" (The Cosby Show)and having the attitude of "grow up and move out so we can be alone!" But that always comes back to bite me as I when I see one of the older kiddos helping a younger one to read a book, or tie their shoes, etc. My parents had a great outlook about us growing up and have always said, "Every stage had its ups and downs. We just always tried to make the most of its ups, and grin and bear the downs..." I'm trying to mimic their parenting in many ways, but that one area especially.Holly-- The Storm Chaserhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17834342524567860800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14313954.post-39249464134912072032010-06-11T06:52:10.487-05:002010-06-11T06:52:10.487-05:00Kristy, I really enjoyed this post. I read the ar...Kristy, I really enjoyed this post. I read the article about breastfeeding with great interest because I made the choice NOT to breastfeed. At all. While I knew that was the right decision for me and my daughter--and my husband supported me 100%--I can remember feeling "put on the spot" when a well-meaning mom at my baby shower asked if I was planning to breastfeed. So there I was, surrounded by 20+ people, about to announce to the world that I wasn't planning to breastfeed. (However, I'm of the school of "whose business is it anyway," but whatever.) Fortunately, no one seemed to pass judgment on me right then and there, but it is a shame that I had to feel some sort of nervousness/embarrassment in stating something that was my choice.<br /><br />I remember one of my really good friends took me aside one day when I was pregnant and said, "Look. Don't let anyone bully you into something you don't want to do. With my first kid, I did everything by the book and breastfed until she was almost year old, and she has had every allergy and illness known to man. With my second, I ate crap all through my pregnancy and wasn't able to breastfeed, and he has been healthy as a horse. Do what's right for you." I hugged that friend so hard I almost snapped her in two.<br /><br />I support anyone who wants to breastfeed; I chose not to for several reason I won't go into here (because my comment is long enough already). And, as a perk, my husband enjoyed being part of the feeding process from the very beginning of our daughter's life. The bottom line is that I don't think formula-feeders should be made to feel that they are "lesser" moms because they can't/don't breastfeed. Unfortunately, that is the message the "society of moms" sees to be sending.<br /><br />(I'm sorry this comment is so long; I can get really fired up about this issue!)Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12006794358630437503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14313954.post-70690725077181099732010-06-10T22:23:54.407-05:002010-06-10T22:23:54.407-05:00Oh friend, how I love the way you write so eloquen...Oh friend, how I love the way you write so eloquently what so many of us want to shout from the rooftops! The shouts of "Amen" for this post are coming straight from my house! :) For those of us who have those difficulties - milk that doesn't come in EVER, lazy eaters, etc. etc. Oh how we need to be reminded that our success or failure as a mother is not determined by the "nipples of milk and honey". That description about made me fall out of my seat in hysterics. I remember so clearly the sting of the looks/words from those who thought my decision to stop was wrong...it just fueled my fire to speak strongly to the "other side" of this debate. Love you for speaking these true words so plainly.Sarah Armstronghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02183113007900118496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14313954.post-4186784958819701882010-06-10T16:25:28.936-05:002010-06-10T16:25:28.936-05:00Thank you for this post. You know my struggles wi...Thank you for this post. You know my struggles with feeding my own "lazy eater" who was not gaining enough weight, etc. It is refreshing to read this article because we don't always hear how hard nursing is for different people. I appreciate your statement of not worrying about the expectations of others and being gentle with myself. Your words of encouragement through my situation have been exactly what I needed to hear. Love you and your way with words. <br /><br />LindsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com