Tuesday, October 28, 2008

"Marriage is hard work."


Those words began and ended each of our premarital counseling sessions with Brink back in the day. In the 3 years that I have been married so far, I have definitely learned them and their absolute truth--although sometimes with ease and others with more difficulty. Dying to myself every day as a Christian is hard; dying to myself as an individual for my husband is harder. But it is so worth it--when I am intentional enough to do it. On our anniversary, we went to see this movie with minimal expectations. We saw Facing the Giants and loved it despite the harsh criticism of the acting. We were willing to give this one a try--even though the cheesiness of Kirk Cameron can be a little retching.

It was so worth it. I would recommend it to any married couple--no matter what phase of life. In the past month our life has drastically changed--in awe-inspiring ways, in stressful ways, in celebratory ways, in devastating ways. A new child, a job loss/change, new roles to learn, new sleep habits, new hormones, being even more totally dependent than we realized was possible on the Lord, being blissfully happy and utterly hopeless in the same hour... This month has been different for our marriage. Difficult but wonderful. This movie helped us celebrate our three happy, adventurous, successful years of our marriage so far. It also helped us prepare for the ncxt 3, and then the next... It brought up many important conversations and it helped me look at Patrick with a more mature (I hope) love. We are learning.

The movie itself isn't magical, but I believe God's work through it can be.

5 comments:

Lori said...

i've heard great things about this movie...but haven't had a chance to see it yet. been praying for God to keep lifting you both up through all the exciting/scary/stressful/hopeful changes going on. love you!

Tiffany Norris said...

I've heard this was great, too. Thanks for the recommendation and the positive words about marriage!

Amy said...

that movie is amazing. definitely have a crush on ole kirk.

J said...

I need to go see this movie. A fellow teacher saw it and rec. it to me.

Holly said...

Kristy! Your baby girl is so pretty! I found you through Ashley's blog. I love the name Addison... We considered that name with Lucy. I'm so glad that my "cousin" is using it! Tell your fam hello for me.